This Mother’s Day, Give Yourself One Quiet Gift
Do you ever feel like the day runs you instead of the other way around? One mess after another, kids shouting, you snapping back, no time to breathe. Many moms feel this way. Motherhood is amazing and also very tiring.
There is a small habit that can bring quick calm without adding more work. It is called self‑observation.
What is self‑observation?
Self‑observation means pausing for a moment and noticing what is happening inside you. Notice your thoughts, feelings, and body signals like tight shoulders or a fast heartbeat. Do not try to fix them and do not judge them. Just watch them pass, like clouds moving across the sky. You are the watcher, not the clouds.
My bath time story
Most nights at 7:00 I told my six‑year‑old it was bath time. She whined. I felt heat rise in my chest. Then I’d snap at my partner for not helping. She cried. I felt like the worst mom.
One night I stopped for one slow breath. I noticed I was not really angry. I was tired and felt alone. That small truth broke the spell.
Next night I asked my partner for help before I boiled over. If he was busy, I started the bath earlier or sometimes skipped it and chose a quiet cuddle before bed. The fight faded because I had given myself space to choose.
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How to practice in three steps
Pause
When you start to feel a big "mom emotion" like wanting to yell, feeling super frustrated, really tired, guilty, or thinking "I can’t do this," take one full breath. This break is your door back to yourself.Observe
Ask, “What do I feel in my body? What thoughts are here?” Name them silently: tight jaw, worry, anger. Watch them like you watch a movie.Drop judgment
Do not scold yourself. Feelings are not bad and they are not you. They are just visitors.
Why it works
The pause creates space between the feeling and your next move. In that space you find choice. You can speak softer, ask for help, or change the plan. Your child also learns by watching you stay calm and kind to yourself.
Try it today
Next time the house feels loud or you doubt yourself, remember: Pause. Breathe. Observe. Then act from that clear place. This tiny habit can give you the freedom to be the mom you want to be.
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